Sexual satisfaction – ideal or idealized?

Idealized sexual satisfaction?

In the society we live, sexual satisfaction seems to be found in perfect bodies, firm erections, and sexual relationships that last all night long. As we know well, the stereotypes defining the society are not always in conformity with the reality. We are going to tell you how to achieve the ideal –and not idealized– sexual satisfaction.

Achieving sexual satisfaction isn’t always easy. There are many factors that subtly make our sex life conditional. These are aspects like upbringing or beliefs, which take people to shame or guilt. What will she think of me if I went for the doggy-style instead of the missionary? Should I do it with the lights turned on or off? The communication and chemistry in sexual relations is vital to feel well and let yourself be carried away. Banish those thoughts from your head that make you feel as if enjoying sex was a sin. Experiment with both your and your partner’s body. You will have really interesting experiences.

Other factors that condition us are our ignorance of our own body, which can take us to uncomfortable or unknown situations. In sexual matters, one has to be assertive and know how to say yes or no, what one wants and feels like, and what one is not willing to do. This situation will give you more peace, and you will stop worrying, since the limits will now be set and clear.

We look for happiness in all spheres of our life, and not having an active and satisfactory sex life can negatively influence our self-esteem. Women who do not feel desired, men who cannot control the time of their ejaculation, and many other situations that make one punish oneself for not having movie-like sex. If you have reached that stage, we want to tell you that the sex we see in porn movies is scripted, rehearsed sex. Neither should women pressurize themselves to be genuine pornstars nor do men need to have an erection that lasts for hours. Sex is a lot more than that. The ideal sexual satisfaction comes from confidence and communication. Treat your partner to an erotic session in which she feels comfortable, desired; a sex session without any hurries, and in which the main aim is not reaching the orgasm, but rather giving and getting pleasure.

Essential tips for sexual satisfaction

  • Trust. The first and foremost thing is trust. You won’t have satisfactory relations if you don’t feel comfortable with your partner. Stop thinking about what she could think of you. There is nothing wrong about having free and consensual sex.
  • Feeling well about yourself. That is the very basis of self-esteem, and not doing so is the main reason for dissatisfaction. Giving ourselves some time and feeling well will give us a sense of confidence in life, and in bed.
  • No taboos. The person that attracts you the most is the one you have in your bed. If you have an uncomfortable, timid relationship, or if fear makes you think about what she might think of you, don’t let the feeling get the better of you. None of you will be able to enjoy what you are doing.
  • Knowing our bodies. It is vital to know what you like, what turns you on, and especially telling the same to your partner. She will love to know what you want, and that way she won’t have to keep doubting if she is doing it nicely or not.
  • Experience. It is obvious that you won’t give new things a try every day, but don’t let the sexual routine get the better of you. Any new game, a sensual massage, another place to make love at, or a call without a tone will drive your partner crazy about you.

Last but not least, we advise you to use “sexual anticipation”. Getting ready for a passionate night, waxing, putting scent on, choosing the clothes that will make you feel attractive, even thinking about the things you will do when the time comes are the perfect complement for increasing the sexual desire. Share it with your partner before your rendezvous, and the sexual tension will be irremediable.

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